I initiated writing this topic on facebook.com as a status, but it was kind of long to share as a status. I just continued writing since when you are in the mood of writing you need to just continue and never stop, or else you lose it. I was writing at first about the love of my life, then I deleted everything. Later I tried saying something about women yelling and how it looks very bad when they do that. I thought about criticizing my culture, but there is too much to write and too much for the world to understand. I just started type a story similar to something that happened to me before who changed the way I was treating women. This is just a fictional story to explain why now I treat females differently.
Some time ago, I was paying some bills and a lady, a beautiful lady came in. She ignored the 10 meter long line and she just went right to the payment window. It was my turn, she said in that cute and adorable and soothing voice "Do you mind if I pay first? I would really appreciate it." and I, the way I was before, just let her pay after all she will take just 2 minutes. She paid her phone bill. She paid her other phone bill. She payed her internet bill. She payed her friend's bill. She payed her mother's bill. After all that, she turns to me, "Thank you." Well okay, how many times you get to do a favor to such a glamorous woman, and in reality she says something to you. I didn't get annoyed for the fact that she made me stand there for 20 minutes looking like an ass, her "Thank you" turned my hate to almost love.
Days went by and I just thought what if I bump into her again? What would I do? I thought to myself, "You loser, you will look at her feel that slow motion moment in life and then leave.". Or as I thought so, 2 days later, I was buying a can of PEPSI and she again cut the line and get in front of me. This time I was really in a hurry so I said "Excuse me, I am running late and I need to buy this and leave quick", surprisingly that angel I saw the day before yesterday turned into a monster with just saying "If you are late, why do you even need to by a PEPSI? Leave it and leave, go to your thing", I got annoyed and replied "It's my turn anyway, I am just asking you not to cut in front of me.". The cashier guy just said "Hey, let her pay she's a lady". I just stood there looking at him like I was going to shoot bullets from my eyes into his brain. I was actually stunned that she turned her head in between the cashier and me, cutting that HATE-EYE-CONTACT moment, and just making the matters worse and saying "Right? A gentleman would do so." I didn't want to look like an jerk, so I told her okay. I was expecting her to be having a whole cart with the whole supermarket in it, on the contrary, she just had a 7UP and couple bags of chips. She finished quick, payed, bagged her stuff, thanked the cashier and left. As soon as she finished bagging her stuff I was already out and started drinking the PEPSI, I heard "Sir!". I was handed a can of 7UP with that part to open it broken so no way to open it, told the guy "Sorry I don't know how to open that when that part is broken."
I was in a rush, I paid no thought to the matter that the guy had a 7UP and didn't focus to see that she was standing behind him on his left. Just hours later I started "Boiling", I was in a mood that I wanted to break something. Days passed and as usual I forgot everything about it. I just lived the days, just the way I normally live them. I wanted to go out one day, and I did. I wanted to run in the morning, and I did. My family needed me with some help, and I helped. My sister wanted some aid with her her, and she was thankful for the hard work I did. Meetings and presentations went by and I enjoyed everything, even the huge problems and fights I get myself into with my family and friends. I live in Alexandria, Egypt, and people usually ride buses and minibuses for transportation, but when there is none with room some people including me just choose to get a taxi and pay 10 times as much, but hey it's easier and much more room. On a Friday, Prayers were already finished, I rushed to get into a minibus to get to the Bibliotheca Alexandrina, had a seminar there. I got in the seat at the back next to the window, noticed there is another guy at the other window. We started moving and he stopped for customers on his way.
On the way, I was hoping to see that woman again, How pathetic, right? Anyways, that woman till this day I saw her only once. He stopped for customers, and an older woman got in and the only possible seat is between my and that guy on the other side, so paying her some respect I moved in the middle and let her have the seat next to the window so that she is not in between two guys. She say down, looked at me and just moved away from me like I'm some kind of pervert turned on by an old woman, older than my mother, and she put her bag in between her and me. To make it even worse, she ,before getting out at her stop, checked her bag to make sure I didn't steal anything. Frustration again? I ignored her, maybe she just got robbed or something, Newton said "For each action, there's a reaction", maybe that's her reaction. Before my stop, three other women got in and out of the minibus and each time, I have to make room and let them sit next to the window, it's some kind of cultural obligation or something.
The day the the crowd stood still, also the one who made me change the way I am with women, came when a woman was fighting with a guy from government services, I didn't understand what she wanted. From what I understood of what I heard, he somehow made a sentence that she couldn't do something because she is a woman. I kind of wanted to go and tell him "How could you?", I just left and knew that problem isn't just going to end. After all, women do have the rights to do things they want, and to be EQUAL towards the law, and NO DIFFERENCE between women and men. Notice, the capitalized letters, it's heading for something. I just went on and on and till I heard this discussed between guys and girls on a mall elevator, about military service. In Egypt, everyone, to be more specific every MALE, is obligated to do military service for 3 years, and luckily 1 year. Of course there are some exceptions, but that's not the point. Anyways, those group were talking about obligation and wasted years doing nothing and some girl did a mistake, She said "Hey did you hear some guys want military service to be obligatory for women too, aahahahaha". They laughed, except one who was looking in the mirror doing his hair like he's Tom Cruise or something. He just said " Hey, Ronnie, You used to send Jane to get you things right? ", I looked up from the text message I was reading, and there he is the guy with the ruined 7UP can, wierdly getting a phone call as we get out of the elevator I paid attention, he just handed the phone to Yasmine and she talked to Jane on the phone because I heard her say "Hey you are a girl, people are nicer with you, just smile say that 'Hi', it's easier if you use that ". Suddenly it's like a series of nuclear bombs exploded in my head. I started questioning myself, Why aren't women obligated for military status? I am obligated to waste three years of my life. Why do women always say "I AM A WOMAN" for things that are benefit for them and when it turns back with bad consequences, they say "HEY I AM WOMAN, I CAN'T DO THAT". Since then and I am giving women what they want, I am doing my part, I am treating them exactly the same way I treat men. When there's a line and some woman is there trying to cut infront of me, I make a huge deal and I do my business first. When I am at my turn at doing something, I make a big deal about anyone, woman or man trying to steal my turn. When some girl or woman asks me something or a favor, I think first, "Will I do that for my best friend? No? Will I do it for a guy? No?", then F*** NO. Since that day, when I am in a minibus, I never slide for that stupid old culture thing about women in minibuses. If you don't want to sit there, GET LOST. I am totally equally treating women they way they want. Women are all wanting it, I am generously giving that to them. No woman will be special case, no woman will be an exception. Only three will be regarded as such, my Mother, Sister, and ....
Some time ago, I was paying some bills and a lady, a beautiful lady came in. She ignored the 10 meter long line and she just went right to the payment window. It was my turn, she said in that cute and adorable and soothing voice "Do you mind if I pay first? I would really appreciate it." and I, the way I was before, just let her pay after all she will take just 2 minutes. She paid her phone bill. She paid her other phone bill. She payed her internet bill. She payed her friend's bill. She payed her mother's bill. After all that, she turns to me, "Thank you." Well okay, how many times you get to do a favor to such a glamorous woman, and in reality she says something to you. I didn't get annoyed for the fact that she made me stand there for 20 minutes looking like an ass, her "Thank you" turned my hate to almost love.
Days went by and I just thought what if I bump into her again? What would I do? I thought to myself, "You loser, you will look at her feel that slow motion moment in life and then leave.". Or as I thought so, 2 days later, I was buying a can of PEPSI and she again cut the line and get in front of me. This time I was really in a hurry so I said "Excuse me, I am running late and I need to buy this and leave quick", surprisingly that angel I saw the day before yesterday turned into a monster with just saying "If you are late, why do you even need to by a PEPSI? Leave it and leave, go to your thing", I got annoyed and replied "It's my turn anyway, I am just asking you not to cut in front of me.". The cashier guy just said "Hey, let her pay she's a lady". I just stood there looking at him like I was going to shoot bullets from my eyes into his brain. I was actually stunned that she turned her head in between the cashier and me, cutting that HATE-EYE-CONTACT moment, and just making the matters worse and saying "Right? A gentleman would do so." I didn't want to look like an jerk, so I told her okay. I was expecting her to be having a whole cart with the whole supermarket in it, on the contrary, she just had a 7UP and couple bags of chips. She finished quick, payed, bagged her stuff, thanked the cashier and left. As soon as she finished bagging her stuff I was already out and started drinking the PEPSI, I heard "Sir!". I was handed a can of 7UP with that part to open it broken so no way to open it, told the guy "Sorry I don't know how to open that when that part is broken."
I was in a rush, I paid no thought to the matter that the guy had a 7UP and didn't focus to see that she was standing behind him on his left. Just hours later I started "Boiling", I was in a mood that I wanted to break something. Days passed and as usual I forgot everything about it. I just lived the days, just the way I normally live them. I wanted to go out one day, and I did. I wanted to run in the morning, and I did. My family needed me with some help, and I helped. My sister wanted some aid with her her, and she was thankful for the hard work I did. Meetings and presentations went by and I enjoyed everything, even the huge problems and fights I get myself into with my family and friends. I live in Alexandria, Egypt, and people usually ride buses and minibuses for transportation, but when there is none with room some people including me just choose to get a taxi and pay 10 times as much, but hey it's easier and much more room. On a Friday, Prayers were already finished, I rushed to get into a minibus to get to the Bibliotheca Alexandrina, had a seminar there. I got in the seat at the back next to the window, noticed there is another guy at the other window. We started moving and he stopped for customers on his way.
On the way, I was hoping to see that woman again, How pathetic, right? Anyways, that woman till this day I saw her only once. He stopped for customers, and an older woman got in and the only possible seat is between my and that guy on the other side, so paying her some respect I moved in the middle and let her have the seat next to the window so that she is not in between two guys. She say down, looked at me and just moved away from me like I'm some kind of pervert turned on by an old woman, older than my mother, and she put her bag in between her and me. To make it even worse, she ,before getting out at her stop, checked her bag to make sure I didn't steal anything. Frustration again? I ignored her, maybe she just got robbed or something, Newton said "For each action, there's a reaction", maybe that's her reaction. Before my stop, three other women got in and out of the minibus and each time, I have to make room and let them sit next to the window, it's some kind of cultural obligation or something.
The day the the crowd stood still, also the one who made me change the way I am with women, came when a woman was fighting with a guy from government services, I didn't understand what she wanted. From what I understood of what I heard, he somehow made a sentence that she couldn't do something because she is a woman. I kind of wanted to go and tell him "How could you?", I just left and knew that problem isn't just going to end. After all, women do have the rights to do things they want, and to be EQUAL towards the law, and NO DIFFERENCE between women and men. Notice, the capitalized letters, it's heading for something. I just went on and on and till I heard this discussed between guys and girls on a mall elevator, about military service. In Egypt, everyone, to be more specific every MALE, is obligated to do military service for 3 years, and luckily 1 year. Of course there are some exceptions, but that's not the point. Anyways, those group were talking about obligation and wasted years doing nothing and some girl did a mistake, She said "Hey did you hear some guys want military service to be obligatory for women too, aahahahaha". They laughed, except one who was looking in the mirror doing his hair like he's Tom Cruise or something. He just said " Hey, Ronnie, You used to send Jane to get you things right? ", I looked up from the text message I was reading, and there he is the guy with the ruined 7UP can, wierdly getting a phone call as we get out of the elevator I paid attention, he just handed the phone to Yasmine and she talked to Jane on the phone because I heard her say "Hey you are a girl, people are nicer with you, just smile say that 'Hi', it's easier if you use that ". Suddenly it's like a series of nuclear bombs exploded in my head. I started questioning myself, Why aren't women obligated for military status? I am obligated to waste three years of my life. Why do women always say "I AM A WOMAN" for things that are benefit for them and when it turns back with bad consequences, they say "HEY I AM WOMAN, I CAN'T DO THAT". Since then and I am giving women what they want, I am doing my part, I am treating them exactly the same way I treat men. When there's a line and some woman is there trying to cut infront of me, I make a huge deal and I do my business first. When I am at my turn at doing something, I make a big deal about anyone, woman or man trying to steal my turn. When some girl or woman asks me something or a favor, I think first, "Will I do that for my best friend? No? Will I do it for a guy? No?", then F*** NO. Since that day, when I am in a minibus, I never slide for that stupid old culture thing about women in minibuses. If you don't want to sit there, GET LOST. I am totally equally treating women they way they want. Women are all wanting it, I am generously giving that to them. No woman will be special case, no woman will be an exception. Only three will be regarded as such, my Mother, Sister, and ....
and Jennifer Aniston? lol
ReplyDeleteI kind of have respect for that aspect of you, really. I never had luck with not trying to give women the upper hand when they sound cute even though it is, technically, the right thing to do. But I would have exploded in her at the cahsier, I think. I don't know. It would have been too much lol